Forgiven, But Not Forgiving?

by Gloria Chisholm at Discipleship Journal

Along those lines, I see four basic attitudes connected with the forgiveness process that we must eventually acknowledge, whether consciously or unconsciously, in order to work through our hurts to a place of healing. We may hold more than one of these attitudes simultaneously, or we may move through them one after the other. The important thing is that we see where we are so that we can respond to where God wants to take us.

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I also came across these four promises of forgiveness from Ken Sande's The Peace Maker...

Sande writes (p. 209), "...forgiveness may be described as a decision to make four promises:"

• "I will not dwell on this incident."
• "I will not bring up this incident again and use it against you."
• "I will not talk to others about this incident."
• "I will not let this incident stand between us or hinder our personal relationship."